View of my personality.

I blog about bad manners and behaviors of men I am on dates with. Yes, it would lead anyone, even me to ask, "What about her bad traits?" So I began to ask a few of the people I know as well as some of the men in my past about their thoughts. It is only fair right? Hey, wait a minute. I don't give out the identities of the people I talk about. So I am already at a slight disadvantage.

Are you in great suspense now? The blogger, me, in on the hot seat. Okay here they are in any order. And these probably aren't even all of them but to show I am fair and not only throwing men under the bus or on the third rail. By all means, read on.

1. "You are too honest. People don't want to hear the truth."

Okay, whatever that means. Maybe he is trying to say he is a liar and has no conscious.

2. "You are mean in a nice way."

I asked him to elaborate on that. What could that possibly mean?

"Well, I don't know how to say it, but you make sure people get the hint but you say it with a smile. You can be very direct but polite at the same time."

The only thing I could think of would be like... Please go to hell. Have a nice f**king day. "Are those examples of what you mean?" I asked.

"Not exactly but I think you get it." he replied as his eyebrows quickly lowered and scrunched down his forehead, making his eyes seem very small.

3. "I think people are intimidated by you. You're too smart and men don't want to be with women smarter than them."

"What?! Are you kidding me with this stuff?" I asked confused and half laughing.

"It's true, men feel dumb if the woman knows more than him or if she makes more money than him. He feels like less of a man." they explained.

Of course the image of a dumb blond wearing shoulder pads entered my mind. I understand the financial thing but not liking a woman who is intelligent is just plain stupid. Although, I truly have had that experience before. My first ex-husband that one thing he did say in the beginning of our divorce. One day he blurted out, "...and you're smarter than me." Well, I guess I just need a good educated man then. Why can't men be upset if a woman cleans better or cooks better, perhaps it would encourage them to do a better job. I believe it is possible for a man to put the toilet seat down. Don't you?

4. "You're too nice to people. You need to learn how to say 'no'."

This is true, I have a very difficult time saying 'no'. I am trying to work on that. I am good at saying no to men who don't understand the meaning of 'no' but to others who need or don't need but ask for my help anyway, I have a difficult time saying the word.

These are the first things that arose in their minds and if these are my bad traits, I don't think they are that bad. And just for the record, the men I have dated in my past, none of them ever regretted dating me. I think that has something to say. Of course, everyone has things about them that they would like to change and I am no exception. I can certainly help point out a few things for those of you who are not sure. Just ask me, I'll tell ya.