Another online match disaster. This one, we chatted a few times online and agreed to meet up for a non-alcoholic beverage. He called me for directions but I couldn't hear him because his phone kept cutting out. I said, "Your phone keeps cutting out, i can't understand you. Can you hear me?" "Yeah..." he responded. I said, "Okay, if you can hear me clearly, I will just give you the directions and we can meet there."
I gave him the directions and we meet at the pub. When we saw each other we greeted each other with a handshake and said hello then found a table. When he began talking, I was shocked, it wasn't his cell phone that kept cutting out, he has a stutter! Holy shit! How am I supposed to understand this guy??? He never told me he had a stutter. What's worse, I don't think he realizes he has a stutter. He never made any comment about it. As a Deaf and hard-of-hearing (HOH) person, I do depend a lot on lip reading. It was impossible to lip read this guys st-st-st-stutter. He was cute but just difficult to understand him, the communication level was not even in the door. He was cute and nice to look at but if he could just stop talking! Texting he was a normal person but in real person at real time, not so much. This was a case where technology truly helps this guy. I felt so bad, I even paid for the drinks. Now you know that is pity. lol
After the date he texted me, "You should send me picture to my phone I think your pretty." I think he is kind of a freak. I could have done without that. Who wants photos of people they just met on their phone?
The next day he text me and said, "What did you think of me?" Yeah, that's what he said. No "Hi, Hello, or How are you?" He was very direct and wanted an answer to his self directed and individually focused question. So I told him straight, "I think you are nice & very cute. It is difficult 4 me 2 understand you though because my hearing." I didn't want him to feel bad so I just put it on me.
He responded, "That's ok. Its hard for you to understand people?" As if it was all me! I wanted to be Frank and tell him that has big damn stutter and that has a lot to do with it. But Since I am better at being me, at being Carrie and not Frank, instead of stating what was obvious to everyone except to him, Mr. swimming in the deNile river, I simply said, "Yes, it is because I am Deaf and HOH. I read lips." Then he continues, "It must be really hard for you." I answered, "Sometimes."
He text me me back, "I think you're very nice and very pretty. It as nice to give you a hug."
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